Good Morning,
Have you ever heard the term ‘Black Sheep of the Family’? This is the person who does not fit in, or causes so much trouble that a majority of the family would rather not have any dealings with them. We all probably have one or more of these in our lives, and in some cases, we are that Black Sheep in the eyes of other members of our family, or we feel like one ourselves.
During the holidays there is an urge to bring families together. During these times, when families are brought together is when families sometimes remember why they only get together once or so every year.
We could easily focus our attention on these family members and how they make us feel, embarrass us, upset us, etc. Or we could look to the rest of the members of our families and those friends we consider family and see how truly blessed we are for having and knowing them.
This is like other areas of life where we can get caught up focusing on the one negative part of something, a job, a friendship, a movie, whatever, and let it ruin everything. You know these types of people; they find something that gets their goat and for the next few hours all we hear is the complaints about that one facet, that one terrible person, that one whatever. After a while it gets old and after that, we start wanting to be somewhere else, think about muzzles or worse.
Getting so fixated on the negative sucks the joy of life right out of everything. Also, it takes a lot of energy to be negative and when we are done, we find ourselves often exhausted from the rants. Not to mention the time lost in venting and re-venting, and complaining to everyone we know, over and over again. I know people who have had the same rant for over 20 years. How sad.
If we took a step back and looked at the broader picture beyond that one or two irritating things or people, we can see there is a lot of positive out there. The ‘Glass is half full’ people tend to be happier than the ‘Glass is half empty’ people and much happier than ‘There’s a speck of dirt in my glass, so it doesn’t matter how much water is in it’ people.
There is a risk for those who get so fixated. Life is fleeting, and before we know it, many opportunities have passed us by. Do we want to add new things to vent about; the missed opportunities lost by our time wasted complaining? Or do we want to embrace all the blessings that are currently out there for us right now? That person with the same rant over 20 years is not going to get that time back.
Rather, if we were all to list the people and things that we felt were blessings to us, I am sure this list will be more than one or two things, and that in making the list, a smile will come to your face.
Then focus on those things, with a smile.
Enjoy!
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