Message of the Day - Leadership without Communication

Good Morning,

 

Leadership is a pretty well known and well studied topic. Not to mention it is all the rage in business and organizational circles these last few decades. All you need to do to see that is look at the vast endless array of book titles showering the bookshelves in bookstores, libraries and on the web. Add to that the nearly limitless leadership trainings and seminars available in person, via telecast, the web and on CD or other medium.

 

Yet, no matter how well versed someone is in leadership, how many courses they take, how large a team they lead, no matter what resources are at their disposal, one huge roadblock can short-circuit this crucial skill in its tracks.

 

Lack of effective communication.

 

How is that?

 

A leader shares their vision with their team, gets them to buy in and helps them grow and develop while achieving their shared goal, while developing the team to be leaders in and of themselves.

 

The communication is riddled throughout this. A leader shares a vision, communication. A leader gets the team to buy in, communication. A leader helps the team grow and develop, communication.

 

What if a member of the team simply does not get it?

What if the leader is a visual person and their team are mostly tactile learners. Showing without the holding, touching and feeling is not true communication to those tactile learning team members.

What if the leader picks us new concepts immediately, and their team need to mostly sleep on the training and can run with it in a day or two. That leader will have a hard team training and going.

What if the leader and teams are from different cultures and the method of communication used by the leader is not valued or even understood by the team members?

What if leader sees the big picture of the goals, yet the team members only see themselves and their personal goals? They see the vision, but from their own perspective, and not the leaders.

 

These and many more examples can be shown to stop a leader in their tracks. Unless there is clear communication from end to end, there is room for failure in leadership. Just having a vision and sharing it, or giving direction to a team are meaningless unless there is true communication where everyone is on the same page. Likewise, re-explaining a point over and over again where the leader and the team member are not in agreement is not going to solve the problem.

 

The leader and their team need understand the same baseline information, and this can often be accomplished by simply asking questions, ask the team members what the goals mean to them, finding out what are their best learning styles, what the values mean to them, what their cultural viewpoints are.

 

By effectively communicating, and having free-flowing information in a form everyone understands, where everyone KNOWS what is expected of them, why, how, etc. a leader can truly lead.

 

Leadership, no matter how good, without effective communication is worthless. Just someone up front spouting off words.

 

Enjoy!

 

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Message of the Day - Surrounded by the Togetherness We Make

Good Morning,

 

My family and I enjoyed a cozy Christmas morning this year, getting up early, opening presents and then enjoying a large home-cooked breakfast. It was a fun time, with plenty of laughs and happy memories.

 

I would like to think that all of my Christmases have been so heartwarming. That, though, is not the case.

 

Flash back to 1989, in Buffalo, New York. I had dropped out of college and worked at the Church of Scientology. It was a snowy day and every member of the staff vanished to be with their families. My family was back on Long Island or western Connecticut and would not see them for a few weeks yet. I was slated to work the morning shift to around 5 PM and then someone would come in and work the evening shift from 5 PM to 10 PM.

 

In the morning, some friends came by with a warm breakfast for me. I was delighted to be thought of. I had no money, and lived literally hand to mouth those days. Outside of that breakfast, I ate stale crackers and jelly in from the break room. I wandered around the office all day, nothing much to do. I kept getting calls from the regional office checking to see how well I was doing on selling courses and getting people to come in. You can laugh, I did.

 

Around 5 PM, my relief called in and said they were not coming in, that I had to cover their shift too. Well, why not, I was there and doing nothing anyway. Around 7 PM, one of the staff members who was currently living in the building itself, there were two at the time, came around and invited me to a movie and dinner. He too had no one to spend Christmas with, and together we went to the movie theater in downtown Buffalo (one of the two or three places actually open in the evening in Buffalo).

 

That Christmas was a time was one of sadness and joy, of being alone, remembered by friends, and abandoned. It was a time where I truly rued my choices that led me to that day. I much rather have been with my family celebrating the holiday, but I had to live with my choices.

 

That evening, at the movies and at dinner, we had a family of two. We celebrated Christmas together, and made a happy ending to an otherwise sad day.

 

This experience taught me that no matter where you are, you can create a family experience with whoever you are with.

 

And in that togetherness, there is some of the best experiences we may come to look back lovingly upon.

 

Enjoy the Christmas holidays with whomever your are with, family, friends, pets, etc.

 

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Message of the Day - How Hard IS it?

Good Morning,

 

This past Sunday morning, arriving at Olive Garden for lunch with Karen at shortly after 11 AM we encountered just another sign of devolving nature of our culture. We walked up to the hostess station and when asked how many, we simply said “Two Please”. Then it happened. The hostess, a twenty something youth remarked that she never hears that word ‘Please’ anymore. People come up and say the number of seats they want, and hardly ever say ‘please’, much less ‘thank you.’  The fact that she brought it up, knowing the traffic Olive Garden’s get, it is sad.

 

Earlier that day, someone in my Bible study class commented that when leaving the church one day, he held the door for nearly a dozen youth. As the last one passed by, he mused that not a single one said thank you, much less looked back at him and smiled or something.

 

Worse yet, Karen tells me of times when kids have come up to her while she was by a door waiting and the stood and stared at her until she opened the door for them. They went through, and not a single ‘please’ or ‘thank you’.

 

Common courtesy is disappearing. Worse yet, we are expected to serve other’s expectations without so much as any positive response. What is that about?

 

In 1991 during the release of the movie remake of the Addams Family, we were shocked at the scene in the dining room when Wednesday asks Uncle Fester for something, and Morticia corrects Wednesday with ‘what do we say’ and Wednesday snaps ‘Now!’

 

That sort of rudeness and lack of culture, class or manners was outrageous in 1991, so much so, it made a funny scene in a black comedy.

 

Sadly, it is becoming the norm today.

 

I remember at work a members of the leadership team shared what he felt what were the strengths of each of their team members. One of mine was that I said ‘Good Morning’ to my coworkers every day.

 

Folks, how hard is this?

 

‘Please’

 

‘Thank You’

 

‘Good Morning’

 

We need to fight the pop culture and bring these words back.

 

Say them loud, and say them often. You can say them in church, at work, at the mails, or wherever you are.

 

PLEASE!! It’s not difficult.

 

Pass it along and lets bring back a little more culture, class and manners to our society.

 

How hard is it?

 

Thank you!

 

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Message of the Day - Making Due

Good Morning,

 

After having a conversation with an associate the other day where we talked about the adversities they currently faced, I realized the relative comfort that I now live in has not always the case. Back in the late ‘80s I found myself living in an abandoned office. I worked at a place which owned a four story building and for staff who could not afford a place of their own, they moved into abandoned offices on the upper level of the building while they got a restart on life.

 

The room I called home for several months was part of a small office suite with a endless pile of paper files and office supplies strewn all over the floors. After a few hours of cleaning and moving everything out of the room I would live in, I set up a futon and presto, instant home. I was not alone, there were two others who also took up residence in other offices in the same suite.

 

I look back on those days and give thanks for all the blessings I have had since those days. While I hope to never have to relive them, the memory of them has helped give me perspective on how to better survive where we are today.

 

No matter where we live, be it in the Taj Mahal or in an abandoned office, we have the ability to make due with what we have. If we get passed the social veneer and our own ego’s we can help improve our lives by hunkering down when we need to and prepare for better times.  Looking down our noses at those less privileged is just plain ignorant, as one day, that could be us.

 

Having an open mind on how to survive tough times is then key.

 

This may be eating beans and rice for a few months to save money to pay down our debts or making coffee in our own houses instead of hitting Starbucks or the local java joint every day. It may mean moving in with a relative, it could be giving away or selling much of our stuff. Making due is a strength we all have when we need to face tough times.

 

No matter where we are in life, we can find ways to make due if we just look . And if looking for solutions doesn’t help, call a friend or do some research. There are many out there who have also had to make austerity changes over the years, and would be happy to offer solutions during our tough times.

 

In the end, the skill and knowledge on how to make due will serve us well, even when we live in high levels of affluence, as life is always full of change. It is not a matter of if the change is coming, it is when.

 

Being able to make due gives us the ability to survive the tough times, which opens the doors to future prosperity and success.

 

Enjoy!

 

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Message of the Day - Need Versus Want

Good Morning,

 

Each morning as I stumble out of bed and make my way down to the kitchen I am surrounded by three meowing cats wanting their morning canned food and two dogs who want to go outside and take care of their business. It is just like being surrounded by vultures and its a challenge to collect my thoughts amid the whining and constant movements around me after being awake a mere five to ten minutes.

 

Usually I check their big water bowl, which all of the cats and dogs share to see if there is water in it. If not, or if it is nearly empty, I fill it first as the cacophony of meows and doggy whines continues. Filling the bowl with water is not what any of them want at the moment, but it is something they need. The cats have dry food in the basement, they won’t starve. The dogs usually have been out some time in the middle of the night (another enjoyable time for me….) and can wait another hour or two before they go out, so two minutes is not going to kill them while I fill the water bowl.

 

It’s an interesting dynamic, to fulfill a need, water, which if they don’t have, will cause a lot more problems than not having food. Yet, the current want is more powerful and more easily heard. The need, completely ignored. That is, until the need becomes a want, and the pets want water.

 

Isn’t this true in our lives? We have needs and wants, and often our wants drown out our needs. Especially during the Christmas, Hanukah and other holidays, we have dreams of what we want, but often overlook what we need.

 

We make fusses for what we want, and ignore, if we are even aware of what we truly need.

 

It makes sense then to look at our lives and at ourselves to see what we need. What are our needs? We may want that 40 or 50 inch LCD internet TV, but we need to have family time. We may want that latest book or CD, but what we need is to balance our budget. We may want tickets to that big game, but what we need is to get on an exercise program for our health.

 

One of the challenges is that needs are not as sexy or desirable as our wants. Family time is not as flashy as a new big screen TV. But, without family time, the family falters, splinters, crumbles and collapses. We get that latest CD, but when the checks start bouncing and the overdraft fees mount, it may be a long time before we are able to go buy the next hot CD. We may get to go to the game, but as our health gets worse, the ability to go and do things wanes until we become shut ins who can’t go anywhere.

 

Ok, I admit it this sounds a bit morbid, but it is to prove a point. Needs are more important than wants. They have a greater impact on our lives.

 

Taking a good look at our needs and making them our wants, now that is a recipe for success. When we fulfill our needs, we strengthen our foundation, our core. This allows us to build ourselves upward with a far less chance of internal problems.

 

Focus on our Needs, and the wants will can be dealt with when we are able. They will always be there. There will always be another gadget, CD, book, game.

 

Fulfilling needs strengthens the core, fulfilling wants is fluff.

 

Enjoy and Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays.

 

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Message of the Day - Stonewall's failings are lessons for us

Good Morning,

 

One of my recent reads was a biography of General Thomas J. Jackson, better known as ‘Stonewall’ by Byron Farwell (http://www.amazon.com/Stonewall-Biography-General-Thomas-Jackson/dp/0393310868). Throughout the book you could see Jackson’s genius, strong personality and his ability to formulate solid plans in seemingly chaotic environments and lead large units which made him as successful and famous as he was.

 

A man so smart, educated and skilled as General Jackson is often going to have skills and abilities that other folks like you and me will have a hard time replicating. Genius is hard to reproduce. Weaknesses, or challenges are a bit more easy to replicate, or better avoid.

 

As such its within Jackson’s weak suits that we find some interesting failings which then translate into lessons for us on what not to do.

 

1. Jackson had a tendency not to communicate to his leadership team. He would not share his plans, even the destinations of where he was marching his army was a complete mystery to everyone, even to those who directly reported to him. This sometimes caused issues when opportunities were lost due to unclear direction, and at the Battle of Chancellorsville, where Jackson was shot, his back up leadership were unaware of his full plans and had to make due, costing time and two different leaders to get it done.

 

Whether this was due to a lack of trust, or fear of failure, or whatever, this lack of communication limited the ability of Jackson’s Army to more fully operate efficiently due to not knowing the goals or destinations. In our society with the speed of change and the overload of information, secrecy can be much more devastating.

 

2. Jackson held grudges. He brought up more charges on his subordinates and other officers than pretty much any other Officer in the Confederate State. He at one point had his second in command under house arrest for failure to fulfill an order, only to have him report back to duty because no other subordinate General could carry out the currently needed military operation.

 

While leaders should be critical of those who work for them (in the sense that they want them to do the best, and debug any issues), going for a constant stream of reprimands and punishments is not going to build an organization of trust. Doubtless there were many who felt Jackson to be the best General in the Confederacy, and there were others who had to work with him, knowing that they were about to be court-marshaled for what may have been minor issues (some had their charges dropped after Jackson’s death, as no one else could find supportive evidence worthy of a trial). I don’t know about you, but I don’t tend to give it my best when my boss or upper management are holding corrective action or worse over my head as a method of organizational control.

 

We need to be up front with those we work with, and also fair. When we instill a culture of trust and mutual support, we can build a far better organization than one run by strict discipline. Reference Captain D. Michael Abrashoff’s book ‘It’s Your ship’ for an excellent example of open, supportive leadership building a culture of trust and high performance.

 

In all, General Stonewall Jackson was an amazing man with genius for his business. He fell at this high point and many still conjecture what would have happened at Gettysburg had Stonewall been there.

 

In all of that wisdom and skill, we can find many lessons from his failings, as these traits are more common to others. These become a roadmap to help us not make the same mistakes, and ultimately improve our game.

 

Enjoy!

 

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Message of the Day - The Lost Art

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When I was growing up, playing in sports or in gym class (which I was pretty terrible in either) or just palling around in our neighborhood, when someone got hurt, the coach, parent or whomever was in charge would often give us the sharp words of wisdom: ‘Suck it Up’. Meaning, deal with the pain, the hurt and keep playing, or doing whatever we are doing.

In today’s world when that same hurt comes, the approach has changed dramatically. The world must come to a stop, and we must make sure everyone is okay, both physically and mentally. When someone gets hurt, its all stop, and add more padding, more protection, reduce risk to the point of absurdity. Heck I have seen cases where folks who were not directly involved had to be helped out because they witnessed something which ‘bothered them’.

It makes me wonder if the kids of today are going to be tough enough when real life hits them after their leave their parents house. I say this because even though I had been told to ‘Suck it Up’ as a kid, I was often reminded of how our parents and grandparents had it much worse than us. That what we endured, no matter how bad, was nothing compared to what our forefathers had to live with.

This all indicates that our younger generations are getting progressively ‘wimpier’ and unable to face the rigors of life with the same aplomb their predecessors have come to achieve.

And if this is the case, then it becomes even more important, then, to help change the cycle, to help toughen up our youth to help prepare them for the austerity times that some have said are just around the corner.

Our future are the youth, and if they cannot stand up to the face of tough times because we have lost the art of ‘Sucking It Up’, then we will have to stay in the game long enough to either help them, or step in for them when the going gets rough. And if you doubt me, think of our hero’s in days past compared to those of today. Is there a hero in today’s world like John Wayne anywhere today? Yeah, I haven’t seen one either.

What do we do?

One suggestion is to let our kids and our youth wallow in the pain and suffering in the situations they created and have fallen into. Even for just a little bit and not dive in to save them from the next unpleasant experience, which they caused and rightfully deserve. Not so much for our morbid amusement, but rather as a training tool so that they learn to toughen up and be able to take the blows in life which come to us all.

The apparent sheltered generation here today is on a collision course with upcoming economic and social crises is not a good recipe for our future.

Let’s help them toughen up. Call it’ Manning Up’, or ‘Cowboy Up’, or whatever, but it is imperative that we help our future generations by showing them it is okay to face difficulty and adversity, and how to learn from it.

Every so often, tell them to ‘Suck it up’. And move on.

Enjoy!

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Message of the Day - The Path We Take

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For about five years, I have been sharing information from the books I read. In the earlier days, I more directly shared from the books that I was reading at the moment, and currently, the messages have been less tied to this practice. Why the change?

 

The path I chose to follow in 2005 and on through to today was to read as many books on the specific subjects which I felt I could best share with others. These including Leadership, Self-Improvement, Management, Helping Others, Business, etc.

 

I dove into those books and when these books recommended other similar books, I found and read some of those as well. At the same time, I was also exploring my faith. In total, I would read 20 books to 1 Christian book.

 

As mentioned in my book, ‘Learn and Grow Daily!’, all of the reading had lead me to the Lord. And as such, I chose to spend more time learning about Him. My reading habits changed and currently, I read 20 Christian Books to 1 business/self-help/leadership/business book.

 

The path I had planned for myself to achieve my goals of helping others had effectively changed course and took to me a whole different area in life.

 

I still have many, many leadership, self-help, etc., books sitting on my shelves in queue to read, and I plan to get to them, but I saw the change in my attitude and where life was taking me, and I accepted that change. Should I have ignored the signs, and persisted down the path I laid out five years ago, I am not sure where I would have ended up, but I am pretty sure it would not be as rewarding as the path I am on now.

 

If what we do in life is not something we are interested in, or called to do, then why should we do it at all? Last week, I had the privilege of hearing Dr. Alistair Begg (http://www.truthforlife.org/) preach at the Southern Baptist Seminary. He shared one thought that resulted in this whole line of thought. He said that if a pastor does not have a specific calling to be a pastor, that he should to do the congregation a favor and quit.

 

What this means is that if we are not wired for, or have a passion to do something, everyone will know. And it can be painful for those who witness or worse are forced to experience our attempts.

 

That path we take in life should be the path of our passion, the path of our calling, the path that is revealed to us from the Almighty, etc., and not the path that we have stitched into our mind years ago, when situations, knowledge and interests were different.

 

It is okay to change the path we take. To stay in our passion, and to be the best we can be, we need to follow the right path. The alternative is going to be painful for at least ourselves and quite probably others who have to endure us in a wrong fitting role.

 

Follow your passion, heed your calling, and chose the path you take.

 

It will lead to a much more fruitful destination.

 

Enjoy!

 

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Message of the Day - It's not a Postcard

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I find most of my best ideas come after speaking with someone or just speaking an idea through to myself. Today, I was talking with my friend and trainer, Dr. Hope Zoeller about having flexible goals after an event, and in the midst of the conversation, I spouted out the words:

 

“Our life’s destination is not a postcard”

 

Then it dawned on me how many of us set our goals of what we are looking to accomplish based on what we think the outcome should look like. And that outcome is often more flowery and fancy than it normally ends up. It’s kind of like a postcard where the picture is often taken at the best time of year, in the best weather conditions, etc.

 

Often, what we are looking to achieve or end up at is not a true destination, that is, it’s not real. For example, if our goal is to start a new company, the goal may be to be rich by the end of the year. The reality is 90% of all new companies fail within their first year, and 90% of those that survive are gone within 5 years. The goal we set and reality can be far apart.

 

Sometimes the destination is just in our heads. Like in the movie ‘Dark City’ where billboard posters showed the vacation resort of Shell Beach, and oddly, no one could remember how to actually get to Shell Beach.

 

The postcard goal can be one that we can never actually get to. The sad part is all the time and effort we put into getting to that place, when we will ultimately fail.

 

So, what to do?

 

Have an open mind and be flexible. Sometimes almost counts more than being spot on.

 

If we achieve something like what we are looking for, like opening a business and doing our best, knowing that while the odds are stacked against us, we can gain a lot of information in the process. Information which can help us succeed when and if we have to try again.

 

Knowing that our goals can be moving targets, allows us to relax our strangle grip on ensuring we reach the postcard finish line, and allow us to live and learn and grow as we move forward.

 

And in the end, when we Learn and Grow Daily! we are taking steps to achieving our goals.

 

And sometimes, when we are flexible with our destination, the goal itself is far better than a postcard image.

 

Enjoy!

 

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Message of the Day - With True Grit

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In our Sunday School class is a couple, Chuck and Mary, who are sight impaired. They normally are picked up by a bussing service and wait in the Church lobby to be escorted to our classroom on the second floor at the end of the hall. This morning, as I was getting situated the class mentioned that they were not here yet and wondered who was getting them. A few moments later, as a plan was being finalized on who was going to escort them up, Chuck and Mary walked into the room on their own, with their walking canes.

 

We were all impressed at their feat, then Chuck said smiling:

 

‘It’s amazing what you can do when you have True Grit.’

 

Of course, that line got me thinking. And it is amazing what we all can do when we have True Grit.

 

First off, what is True Grit, though? … True Grit is synonymous with: Fortitude, Prowess, Tenacity.

 

People displaying these traits: fortitude (Strength), Prowess (Skill) and Tenacity (persistence and refusal to give up) generally have a greater success record than those who are not as strong, not as skillful and not as persistent.

 

The first step in showing True Grit is to make a decision, to draw a line in the sand, and remain firm in our decision, no matter what.

 

The next step in showing True Grit is to act, doing what we believe to be right, against all odds, and with only ourselves to rely on at times for assistance. All the while, making course corrections as necessary, but not giving up.

 

The final step in showing True Grit is to accomplish our goals, as we stated we would.

 

Chuck and Mary walked their way in the dark, resolved to get to where they needed to be, no matter what. And they succeeded.

 

What goal do you have set for yourself today which you can roll up your sleeves and show your True Grit in achieving today?

 

Once you decide, GO. DO. Succeed!

 

Enjoy!

 

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Message of the Day - Hard-Learned Wisdom

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During my recovery, I am able to spend some time pondering on how I got to where I am and more importantly what I have learned through this situation and life in general. Yesterday, I made a realization which would have completely altered the course of life had I followed my current wisdom of that of sixteen years ago.

 

The wisdom is that experts know better than me in their fields of expertise. This sounds pretty straight-forward and not worthy of mention, but there is more to it.

 

Sixteen years ago sitting in the hospital, the Dr. gave me a rundown of the options of treatments which I could have to correct my shattered leg. The graphic detail which these descriptions were given pushed me to take what seemed to be the least disgusting option.

 

The expert gave the list in order of their preference of what was best, and I made the decision on what I felt was the best, even though I did not have the best understanding of what my decision would mean to me in the long haul. The Dr. lamented that I should have chosen a different option. And as it turned out, I should have, but I was not wise enough back then.

 

Flash forward to several months ago when I visited two Orthopedic Surgeons to review the issue. They gave me the same list of options, the same graphic procedures.

 

My learned wisdom, now applied, I asked the Dr.’s what they recommended. Both Doctors said the same thing. I needed the surgery to correct my leg, or else I would eventually lose the ability to walk.

 

No matter how I felt about the options before, I deferred to the wisdom of the experts. I did not make my choice based on my knowledge, but theirs, the experts.

 

In life we are faced with many challenges and questions. Many of these are the same issues which come to face us daily, weekly or rear their heads periodically through our lives.

 

It makes sense to apply our learned wisdom and make the best choice in going forward, even if, in the past, we did something different.

 

We Learn and Grow Daily! when we apply our hard-learned wisdom to these life situations.

 

Enjoy!

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Message of the Day - Do It Anyway!

Good Morning,

 

Found this wonderful piece in one of my current reads. This was written by Kent M. Keith “The Paradoxical Commandments.”

 

 

People are unreasonable, illogical and self-centered,

                Love Them Anyway.

 

If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives,

                Do Good Anyway.

 

If you are successful, you will win false friends and true enemies,

                Succeed Anyway.

 

The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow,

                Do Good Anyway.

 

Honesty and Frankness make you vulnerable,

                Be Honest and Frank Anyway.

 

The biggest people with the biggest ideas can be shot down by the smallest people with the smallest minds,

                Think Big Anyway.

 

People favor underdogs but follow only top dogs,

                Fight For The Underdog Anyway.

 

What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight,

                Build Anyway.

 

People really need help, but may attack you if you help them,

                Help People Anyway.

 

Give the world the best you’ve got and you’ll get kicked in the teeth,

                Give The World The Best You’ve Got Anyway.

 

 

Enjoy!

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Message of the Day - Life = Risk

Good Morning,

 

Life is seldom easy, unless you do nothing and aspire for nothing more than what you have now.

 

Wanting more, and aspiring to be better opens the door to failure.

 

And when you fail you have two choices, one is to go back to doing nothing and having no aspirations, or

 

Taking it as an opportunity to learn and grow daily so that you can take that next chance to improve your life.

 

A life enjoyed is often a life with risks taken.

 

Life = Risk.

 

Mere existence is not life.

 

This video shares these feelings   http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_tjYoKCBYag&feature=related

 

Enjoy!

 

Sanford Berenberg
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