Good Morning,
I remember working with a rambunctious and very cool guy in a hardware store back in the early ‘80’s. He told me a lot about his troubled life at home and the problems he had with his dad. His dad, oddly, was a teacher and worked at my high school. He was a Chemistry teacher but also had a PhD in Psychology. As such, this teacher was always helping out students and other young people. Everyone would go to this teacher for some advice. Everyone, it seems, except for his son.
It was not that he and his son avoided each other, it was something more.
All of the teacher’s wisdom and laser precision help came crashing apart when he focused on helping his son.
Why?
Because he was highly emotionally involved.
When we have emotions creeping into our thinking, we tend to lose objectivity and what may seem the best decision or advice could turn out not to be.
It is kind of like being near or farsighted when doing some activity which requires your eyes. The target seems a bit fuzzy. Emotion causes that fuzziness. The stronger the emotion, the greater the fuzziness.
When we get involved in helping others and get emotionally involved we have to take a step back every now and then and make sure that our emotions do not skew our judgment.
How do we do this?
When we feel strong emotions whenever we are trying to figure out a problem, it may be a sign to take a breather and step back until you can focus in a calmer manner.
When we are very close to the people we are helping, we need to understand that our emotions may come into play, and that we may not be the best people to give objective help.
If you find yourself continually stressing and emotionally drained or at extremes, it may be time to find professional help, in a counselor, pastor, therapist, etc. It is okay to get help. It really is.
Logic is a powerful tool, but strong emotions have its number.
Enjoy!
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