The Sanford Berenberg Experience: Message of the Day

Good Morning,

No, I am not taking back my message from yesterday. What I want to do is look at the same message from another side.

We know life happens, and there are times that the happenings of life are unbearable. And worse, when we find ourselves not able to take any more, something else happens. It’s as if the world has it out for us and we are the butt end of some cosmic joke.

In all things that happen to us, we get to chose how we face these things. It is our choice in how we react.

Yeah, okay, that is old news. The truth is, it works. The truth also is that it is hard to get it to work consistently. It takes a lot of practice.

When bad things happen, and they often do, if we look for the bright side [and I am not suggesting we make light of anything that happens to anyone, rather it is a choice.] we can find something to help us get through.

We can get pissed off and hate the world when bad things happen, or we can look for the lesson in the mess. Sadly, there is not always a lesson in the mess of bad things. Sometimes things just happen. Even so, there is always something we can learn, if we look.

When I get up in the morning, I look at the day ahead and what needs to be done, and what I would like to do. I prepare myself for the day, and find myself facing those negative thoughts I shared with you on my last blog.

The difference is that I have learned to stop those thoughts and redirect myself to something positive. Often using the tools I listed yesterday. Sometimes it happens automatically, and others, I have to wash rinse and repeat a few times.

Sure the bad stuff happens. It happens to us physically, mentally and spiritually. And yes, there is pain. And yes there is suffering.

Being hateful about it sounds like a good idea to some, but what I have found that if we allow the anger in, even a little bit, it grows. It is one of the fastest growing weeds ever.

Allow the anger in and it will fester and consume you.

Stop it.

Stop it with a prayer for those who have angered you. Stop it by reading the Word. Stop it by listening to uplifting music (even if that uplifting music is used for psychological warfare).

We do have a choice. We can allow the negativity consume us. And if we look for the dark and negative, we will find it.

Or we can choose happiness. That in the mess of our lives, we can find something to be happy and thankful about.

It may be harder to find, but those things are also all over the place.

Since my leg surgery, I have had pain pretty much every day. I walk, but in pain. I start out slow and move faster.

Folks wonder why I went through the surgery when I was trying to avoid pain only to get more. What I have earned, is the right to walk. Without the surgery I would have lost that. I am thankful for the pain. Because of the pain, I can walk.

And that is something that is a part of each and everyone’s lives. If we become thankful for the pain and suffering, we find something even better to be thankful for.

I miss my Mom, she passed over two years ago, and it is painful to hear people talking with or about their Moms, knowing I cannot ever do that again in this life. I choose to turn that pain into happiness.

That is, I had a Mom worth suffering this pain for. She loved me, she drove me crazy, and I love her, and I suppose I drove her a bit crazy too. I am thankful for the pain, because it means I had the chance of a great relationship with someone who I loved and adored.

There is happiness in life, even in the darkest pits of despair. It is there.

You need only look for it.

Enjoy!

Sanford Berenberg

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