Good Morning,
My daughter likes watching ‘America’s Next Top Model’ and I find the show interesting as well. In one of the episodes when there were four contestants remaining, the two bottom contestants were told the areas they need to improve. One was told that they were too controlling and would not let themselves let go. The other contestant was told that they were out of control, that they had little t no discipline and when trying to strike a pose, her body and face would do different things. One of those two were let go from the show.
It ended up being the one who was too much in control.
Why would they let go the contestant with too much control over the one without enough of it.
The answer, I believe, is it is easier to teach someone how to increase their level of control than it is to teach someone to let go of control once they have it ingrained in their personality.
You know the types, the control freaks, who like to know where everything is, what everyone is doing, when, and with what. They find it hard to operate in a chaotic environment. When plans are not followed, they get upset and often lose control (because of the lack of control of others. Ironic really).
While folks can be taught how to let go, it is harder for them. Harder than for those who learn new tools and tricks to help them get more control.
I believe the judges on ‘America’s Next Top Model’ saw that in the contestant that they would have a better chance of helping the model who needed to learn control . That she had a brighter future in the modeling industry.
This is probably true in all industries where we need to be flexible rather than rigid.
One of the challenges is that each of us tends to be a control freak in some area of our lives. Be it wanting to know what everyone is doing all the time, or having our personal space immaculate, or ensuring that you are dressed meticulously all the time, we have to learn to be a little more flexible, to give up that control from time to time.
By doing so, we can find things that we too can learn in areas where may already be very good at, but if we try to control everything, we may just miss out.
Something to consider.
Enjoy!
Sanford Berenberg
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